Get Over with It
It's hard to dump someone just like that and we know that. It’s not an easy decision and just the thought of it stresses you out. But, think for a moment: aren’t you prolonging the inevitable? There is no point in holding on to someone who should have been dumped a long time ago. If you have finally made up your mind and built up the courage to get rid of them for good, do it.
Return Their Things
When cutting ties with this person, make sure you return their stuff if you don’t want to be awakened by them in the middle of the night by their call to get their stuff lying at your house back. Think about all the things you have that belong to them and if they gave you any expensive gifts. They might start doing petty things to get your attention or tease you. Box everything that belongs to them, and return it.
Trust Karma
No matter how enraged you are to take revenge, don’t! No revenge is worth ending up in jail. Let go of it, even if you were manipulated, cheated on, or abused by them. Have your say but abstain from hitting them or hurting them in any way. You don’t have to be like them by doing the same to them what they did to you.
Learn to focus on healing and making your life better. Trust karma and go on living your life.
Set Boundaries
Ask the person to stop reaching out to you. Tell them that they are making you uncomfortable and you want to cut off ties at least for a little while. Ask them to respect your decisions because you are a human who deserves to live the life they want. Setting boundaries with this person will help you and them be happier.
You have the right to be angry at them if they don’t respect your boundaries. If you want people to treat you, the way you deserve, you need to leave the table when respect is not served. Tell them it’s over and that they’ll never see you again if they cannot stop repeating their mistakes.
Stop Ghosting Them
You don’t have to be cruel to the person you want to dump, because there are ways to do it like grownups. If you want them to stop talking to you because they are abusive, toxic or you two don’t get along, find a good way to do it. Be pleasant even if it’s hard for you, but life is hard so you have to be a grownup and talk to them about it. It can be challenging and scary because you don’t know how they’ll react but what’s important to be done, needs to be done.
