Engage Them in a Conversation
If you are trying to ask someone out who you have seen at a party, coffee shop, or an event, approach them in a friendly manner and talk to them. People who are interested in someone often make the mistake of starring at them from a distance. But you might make them uncomfortable and seem creepy.
If you want to ask someone out, start talking to them about something. Small talks are the best way to make a start. If you are at the coffee shop, ask them if they have tried the new seasonal drink.
Be Yourself and Keep it Simple
When you are asking someone out, you won’t know what is going to happen next. Don’t arrange an expensive dinner and don’t flaunt. Keep your conversation and the date simple and spend what you would usually spend on a date.
Everyone likes to go out with a person who is simple and straight forward yet have emotional and intellectual depth. When you are asking someone out don’t fake an accent, lie or show off. Be yourself and keep things simple and real.
Keep a level head
It is nerve-wracking to put yourself out there and ask someone out. Unfortunately, the best thing to do is also the hardest thing: keep a level head. Be cool and calm, so as to not put too much pressure on your crush and make them more inclined to answer positively.
Remember to always keep your cool even if the answer isn't the one you wanted. Take it in stride and, if you want to ask again, make sure a decent amount of time has passed since your initial asking. Nothing's more unattractive than a person who can't take no for an answer.
Arrange a Date
When asking someone out, you should not go with, hey. Do you want to hang out? It is vague and it might not be an interesting or clear indicator of a date. Ask them if they would be willing to have dinner with you on Friday night? If they are busy on Friday, ask if Sunday suits them. If they are interested in going on a date with you, they will go for an alternative option.
Be Confident
Even the confidence of the most confident person would shake when asking someone out. The fear of rejection can make it very difficult for men to put their ego aside and ask someone out. Asking someone out is a healthy risk that you should be willing to take. If you find yourself overthinking when you are trying to ask someone out for a date, relax and take the risk. Your mind may trick you into thinking, you don’t look very good today or they are out of your league, calm your mind, and get ready to take a chance.
