Best Ways to Spice up a marriage

Romance is an important element in a marriage that keeps the spark alive between two people. Yes, you do mushy in the first weeks of your relationship or the infatuation period but that’s not something that you should outgrow. Romance is something you work on constantly. It is fun to explore it and lose yourself in the moment with your partner.

Be delightfully mushy and cheesy with your partner- Have a candlelight dinner, dance slowly to your favorite song with him/her and do sappy things such as ‘Netflix and chill’. Be young and you will find endless ways to spice up your marriage. 

Sometimes the smallest gestures say your biggest emotion. Do dishes or laundry, take out the trash, fix dinner, walk the dog, etc. Do things for your spouse without them asking and show them how much you care for them. A sweet gesture in the day can lead to a beautiful night as well ;)

Let your eyes do the talking. Your eyes are the window to your soul, and I agree. This is one of the most intimate ways to spice up your marriage for an entire lifetime. And I don't mean a glance at the dinner table. Dig deep and lock your eyes during conversations. Sit or sleep face to face and look into the eyes, see their eye color, and try to figure out how they are feeling right now.

Remember the way you fell in love. Recreate the first date. Talk about how you both were when you first met and what made you fall in love with each other in the first place. Even if you cannot return to the exact place you first met, you can at least plan some similar activities. Like if you met for dinner the first time, you can go out for dinner and drinks. Just remember and recreate it and make the magic happen again!

Four little words can make a big impact on your partner. Ask them, “How was your day?” And listen to them when they talk about it. Not just, “Yeah, it was good.” Find out how they felt today, whether it was happy or sad, and what they want to do. Then, it's your turn. Talk about your day. Say how you felt. Sometimes we end up not talking to the person we live with, make sure that is not the case. Have a healthy dose of communication and let that lead to a deeper conversation about your relationship.

Can't express how you feel with words? Many people struggle to talk about their feelings, but you can show you care with physical touch. Hug your partner. There is not much that touch cannot fix. Just hug and hold each other. Find out reasons to touch each other. It can be a long embrace or just touching their waist while you pass by. Hold hands when you are watching TV or just cuddle at night. Let your body speak for you.

Isn’t it nice to receive gifts out of nowhere? It lights up your face and is a complete mood-changer. Add some dazzle to your spouse’s day with unexpected gifts. Surprising your husband or wife is one of the oldest yet workable techniques to add spice to your marriage. If you two usually don’t show love or affection, it’s a good gesture as the other party will think of it as something that you did by halting your work.

Whether you reveal the gift at home or workplace, just make sure to capture the moment. Record their reaction and see if they really like the gift. Another way is to take them shopping so they can shop their favorite brands.

Life moves fast for all and in all the hustle and bustle, we forget to spend time with our significant other. So, slow your life down a bit and plan a much-needed breather with your partner. Head to your favorite spa with your spouse or plan a relaxing day at the beach or your home.

The spa time spices up your marriage in many refreshing ways. As you both get relaxed, it will help you open up to each other. You will chat endlessly and express your love and affection for each other once again.

End the beautiful yet relaxing day with your partner with a bubble bath or a solid massage, or maybe watch something on Netflix.

Revisit your relationship roots by spending some time each week sharing your favorite memories. It never hurts to look back on how much fun you have had together. This can be a type of happy hour you have all week. So, remember your memories while making new memories happen.

Initiate rituals that set with both of your time. A good practice is to follow the 2-2-2 rule. Go out for a day every two weeks. Go out for a week every two months. And, plan a big trip and go out to your favorite location, every two years. When you go to a new place and spend time with others, you connect and get closer.